Thursday, January 29, 2009



Sometimes I don't even know who I am.....




Hello everyone. Update is that I finally got to the bottom of the inbox of comment love from being featured on SITS on the 27th. I absolutely adored it. Thanks again to all who stopped by. I tried to respond to each of the comments, but a lot of them had a no-reply email so I'm was not able to respond to them. But, oh, well, it was a grand day.




Now on to my problem for today. I am really struggling with my, I guess you could call it my expectations. I wonder if I have PMDD or something. I love my kids, but lately, all they do is get on my last nerve. And it makes me feel like Godzilla mom or something. I ratchet off about the smallest things. For example, yesterday I told my two boys to take out the garbage (today is garbage day) and they get into a tussle in the kitchen about who is going to do what. That really aggravated the stuffing out of me and I began to yell. After that, I was just snippy and snappy and naggy. I kept finding stuff of theirs lying about (that prior to that little tussle) that didn't really bother me at all. And lately, it seems to happen more and more.


Please tell me that I am not alone in this. I feel like such a failure as a mother and I don't want my kids to grow up with this *itch.


Thanks for any suggestions and for listening to me vent.

19 comments:

Brenda Jean said...

You are SOOOOOO not alone. The garbage thing happens here too, and I've been annoyed all week. Notice I am late from SITS? Yeah, doing 3 days in one day. Congrats on being saucy:)

mommy4life said...

You are not alone. We all have those days. Mine was yesterday, feeling like a failure. Anyway, know we are all human and are not perfect!

RebeccaMom said...

You are most definitely not alone! Fighting gets on my nerves more than anything, and I have been known to lose my cool!

Kori said...

Your are not alone. My are constantly fussing at each other about something. Sometimes I intervene but here lately I have just been waiting and they work it out eventually .

mommaof4wife2r said...

i can't speak for every momma out there, but sister, my kids some days are on my very last nerve...and sometimes it lasts a bit longer than a day.

one of the things i do...first, sometimes the kids watching movies or being alone is the best option...second, pray. when i feel it coming on, i pray a simple prayer...lord, i need your patience bc i can't do this on my own.

i'm praying for you..just did...hoping you find peace. being honest is good though!!

TuTu's Bliss said...

Hugs! Just cut yourself some slack :) Even moms have their moments. Just remember to apologize when need be.

Laura said...

I have no idea what you are talking about. I never yell at my kids. I love every moment of my every day. (LOL)

oh, honey...not only are you NOT alone,but you are stuffed in a crowded room FULL OF MOMS WHO HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS...ones that leave us feeling guilty at the end of our every day. Wish I had a solution....just hang in there.

I do feel, on my worst days, that at the very least, I KNOW I have fallen short of who I am want to be. I know when my expectations are out of reach, and I make an effort to do better the next day. Sometimes the self awareness is the best I can do to keep me from feeling like the worst mother ever.

You and your kids will be fine.

Melissa said...

Okay babe. You have to know you're not alone. It's hormones. I'm convinced. Some days I'm fine, but most I'm a raving lunatic when I have all 4 home at once. I feel like I'm just surviving until naptime or bedtime.
Don't believe that lie that Satan tries to tell you. Christ has made you more than a conqueror. I think sometimes our choices make us feel like failures. We choose good things over the BEST thing.

If you haven't read My Utmost for His Highest today get on over there. It's meant for us. Go to this link and read:

http://www.rbc.org/utmost/index.php

Melissa said...

btw, what's pmdd?

Michelle said...

Nope, you're not alone :) I find that I really have to calm myself once I get worked up over something or the whole day goes downhill. Good luck!

Oh, and every Tuesday I post new recipes. I did my mojito granita a bit ago, but I'll add the watermelon sometime soon. I actually haven't made the banana mousse since I posted that but ummm you'll see tomorrow why I need to make it again (if you come back!), so I'll try to post it for this coming Tuesday's recipe. Each Tuesday I do another one.

Thanks so much for stoppping by my blog today. The SITS feature was so much fun, and I really appreciate all the wonderful comments. I hope you'll come back to visit again soon!

Midwest Mommy said...

I missed your Sits day! Congrats!

I swear it is winter. My kids are getting on my last nerve. I just need them to go out and play and get fresh air. You are not alone.

kalei said...
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kalei said...

Okay, so i thought, I don't know what to say to this one....I let it marinate in my head. Than I asked the 2 year old to pick up the 200-300 mega blocks (really, that many) she managed to totally throw on the floor... she said "No, thank you", I said "Kai, pick up the blocks" she said "Ummmm, NO!" I said "Fine" and proceeded to take every block out of the room and left in where she could see, but no touch.....Is that wrong?! She has other toys, so its okay. BTW I am a late follower of the Feature on SITS. Congrats on the Feature and Tiff and Heather are wonderful. Sorry I deleted my comment, I totally spelled an easy word incorrectly and didn't want it out there till the end of time. which word,.......I am never telling. BTW if you see another word that needs correction, don't tell me, I am pretty sensitive, and kind of Obsessive, so I might raise a stink. =)

Fairy Princess Garden said...

I am sooo there with you! I now proceed to grab a garbage bag and when things are still lying around at the end of the day after pick up time I toss them in there..they end up taking a time out in the garage. This has worked pretty well.
Hugs fellow SITSta..it'll get better.

Lynette said...

I have too been doing the blahs!
So here is some love for you.
You have been tagged!
http://theysayimnuts.blogspot.com/2009/01/tagged-bagged-and-paying-it-forward.html

Kimm at Reinvented said...

Okay, you've heard this a bunch of times from these oh so eloquent women, but you are NOT alone girl. We all have been there, in fact, I make that trip at least for a small part of every day. I always envy my friends who get their kids attention by speaking quietly and calmly, but I guess they can only do that because they NEVER yell. I just have to yell louder. :)
Hang in there, do something to take care of YOU.

Aunt Spicy said...

You are not alone! But with me...its my co-workers!

Shannon said...

Nope... you're not alone. I've been in a funk lately, too. Every little thing gets on my nerves... seriously, I just want to be left alone! GAH!

Jennifer said...

I know how you feel... sorta! I am not a mom yet but we just get in those moods sometimes you know? It's human! And as women, it's our prerogative!